I agree - got married in black at the civic centre, no reception, no wedding cake - all my friends (about 40 of them) in black, having come straight from a party following a good night out (most of them were coming down from something......it was 9.15 am) - and we all piled back to my house and got plastered for the rest of the day and following night.One piece of advice for those that do decide to tie the knot - be selfish - it's your day, not any of the respective parents. Have the marriage that you want. If your family loves you they will forgive you almost anything.
I should know, having booked the Smurphs as my wedding band!
Mum and Dad smiled throughout